You have just been through the most painful thing in your life.  Your boyfriend broke up with you.  Amidst the deep hurt and the immense feeling of betrayal, there is one imperative in your mind: get your man back.  You know that you guys belong together as a couple.  You have been through a lot together and have tons of good memories between you.  Getting him back might take some time and effort but that is all right with you.  You are willing to wait.  Here is what you have got to do:

First, accept that the break up that happened.  Once you do this, you can skip the denial stage, go right to the mourning stage.  Accept that the pain is real.  Go ahead and cry your heart out.  As soon as you are all cried out, you can start on your plan to get ex boyfriend back.

Second, look back at the relationship as unemotionally as you can and analyze what contributed to the relationship’s demise.  Be very honest.  Make a list of what you feel you have done wrong and decide whether a change is called for.

Third, ask to meet up with your ex.  Make sure though that you are ready to be reasonable and unemotional during the meeting.  When you speak to him, own up to your mistakes – but whatever you do, do not ask him to take you back.  This is the wrong time to do it.   Doing so at this stage might mean the difference between succeeding in your plan to get ex boyfriend back or failing miserably.  At this time, simply admit to your contribution in the deterioration of your relationship.  Make him see that you are making a real effort at trying to change for yourself, not just so you can get him back.   Again, no begging, no pleading.  Just a reasoned and honest owning up of your mistakes.

Fourth, take a step back.  Try not to call him or see him.  Make yourself unavailable.  Your ex needs some time to be on his own.  He will need time to think about the relationship, and maybe to start missing you.   It might even be that he will realize he misses you and might take the initiative in making things right between you.

Finally, move on with your life.  That is not to say you will give up on your quest to get ex boyfriend back but believe me when I say that the best path to take is to make him want you instead of you running after him.  Find other things to be busy with.  Or perhaps you should go back to the things you were interested in before you became so engrossed in being a couple.  Be a vibrant, fully alive woman, the one your ex fell in love with.  Above all, take care of yourself.  Let up on the crying jag and give up the ice cream binge.

I am sure you must have heard the phrase ‘being successful is the best revenge’, In your case, ‘being beautiful is your best revenge’.  So ago ahead, prettify, beautify, work out.  Make yourself the hottest thing your ex boyfriend is likely to ever meet.   I am sure he will be the one wanting to get back together with you soon enough.